If you’ve read my emails or blogs, you’ve likely heard me quote Deepak Chopra.
In fact, I used a Deepak Chopra quote in my last email and it sparked some conversation in our Private Facebook Group. “Success tends to happen when people work together. Failure often happens alone.”
In weight loss or fitness, this is often called an accountability buddy.
What is an accountability buddy?
An accountability buddy or accountability partner is generally a relationship between two people that are trying to achieve the same goal, in this case, weight loss. Neither has to be an expert in the field of their endeavor, but by working together, they increase their chances of achieving mutual success. Together, each person benefits because the accountability and responsibility for ones actions is essentially doubled.
In regard to dieting, an accountability partner would be someone that you recruit to complete the diet with you. And again, it relies on the Deepok Chopra principle that two people working towards the same goal is better than one.
So the next questions is…
What makes a good accountability partner?
I can tell you all about HCG and the physiology of ketosis, but I don’t know the perfect answer to this. In fact, the answer might be a bit different for everyone. So let’s make the more of a discussion. I’ll make suggestions and you can decide which sounds best for you. Ideally, you should look for an accountability buddy that will benefit from your strengths and compliment your weaknesses.
Your Spouse – The first person that many look to as a potential accountability partner is they’re actual partner – a spouse. Ostensibly, this seems like a good idea. Your spouse is always around. They’re supportive. You can rely upon them in rough times, but there is often a flip side. Generally, when one spouse slips up with a meal or a cocktail, typically the other will follow.
I have a family member with addiction issues so I’ve sat through the 12 step meetings with them several times. One of the first things they say to new members is NEVER get into a relationship with someone you meet in AA. Even though that person can sympathize with your cause, when one falls off the wagon, typically both fall off.
I’m not ruling out a spouse, just trying to be objective, play devil’s advocate. If you think you can be successful with your spouse in reaching your weight loss goals, by all means, go for it.
What about a trusted friend? A friend can be a good choice for an accountability partner for the same reasons a spouse can, but also a bad choice for similar reasons.
In my opinion, this entirely depends on the friend. I have a few friends that spark my competitive side. When I see them succeed, it drives me to succeed. A friend like this sounds like a good option in regard to HCG weight loss. If you have a similar friend that drives you to succeed, this would be a great choice.
On the other side of that coin, I have some friends that would make horrible accountability buddies. They’d make great drinking buddies, but not accountability partners.
If you choose a friend, but sure it’s the right one. One that will bring out the best in you and not the worst in you both.
In regard to competitiveness, a sibling might be a wise choice. Siblings are generally quite competitive with one another. That’s a good thing. However, there if often animosity among siblings.
I have siblings, a brother and sisters. I hate to say this, but sometimes I’ll view my brother’s failure as my success. We’re all ultimately competing for the love of our parents (I’m 42 and I hustle every day to make my dad proud. You never outgrow it.), so for that reason, maybe a sibling isn’t a good idea. You don’t want to succeed at the expense of your sibling and you certainly don’t want to sabotage anyone.
What does that leave us? Co-workers maybe? I think someone that you don’t have such a long history and/or a vested interest, might be a good idea. You can be both supportive and objective at the same time. With a co-worker as your accountability partner, you can keep it to a business relationship and strictly diet related. All biz! This to me seems logical.
Or a small group? If you put 3-5 people together, a sibling, a friend, a friend of a friend, and a co-worker, that might be the best option yet. Nobody want to let down the group. The group will drive success. It’s common Group Think Theory. When working within a group, you generally tend to do as the group does. So rather than an accountability partner, you are now accountable to the entire group.
I’m not sure if I shed a tremendous amount of light on the subject, but at least it gives you some ideas.
Consider your options. Consider your strengths and consider your weaknesses. Why did you fail in the past? If it was due to a lack of discipline, find an accountability buddy that is more disciplined than you. Find someone that will fill the gaps.
You may also want to consult my private HCG 2.0 support group on Facebook. Everyone in the group has either done the diet with success or is considering HCG 2.0 just as you are now. Scroll through and read some of the posts. Make some posts of your own. Make friends.
You can also visit my HCG 2.0 tutorial on Teachable called Accountability Plus+. For only $1 per day you’ll receive a complete overview of HCG 2.0 including daily tips, reminders and recipes. Call it a $45 insurance policy to your success.
Best of luck in reaching your weight loss goals.